Spring-ish Observations
While the snow is beginning to melt and some plants are starting to sprout, lately, I have also noticed a lot of hostility in the air. Initially, I thought this was due to me, my presence was causing the people around me to fight. I understand, all too well, that Spring can be a stressful time for students, but adults who are no longer in school have also been reacting this way. Even people who have been happy together for decades have begun to bicker in front of me. Perhaps I have been sending off some kind of negative energy that everyone is feeding off of. However, the more I witnessed it, the more I began to realize that I, this one little person, could not seriously have such a cosmic effect on all the relationships around me. Could I?
Maybe, for some reason, it is only now that I have become aware of these tiffs. Was I simply disillusioned before now into believing truly happy relationships existed and ignored these arguments like a naive child? Longing for goodness, could I only see happiness for the ones around me? I have always avoided conflict. Then why can I see it now? What has changed in me? Is this a sign that I am growing up once again and coming to the realization that there is really no such thing as "happily ever after"?
Perhaps it is a response to nature, and not related to me specifically at all. Do people, like Spring itself, go in like a lion and out like a lamb? After a long, cold, and closed in winter, do we become edgier and more sensitive before enjoying the renewal of life and love that Spring has to offer? Is this selfishness a ramification of pent up energies from all Winter long?
Does anyone else have an explanation for these events?
Whatever the reason, I can't help but wonder.... we might all get through this a little easier if we just thought for a moment before we acted and before we spoke, and if we examined the question "Will hurting someone else make us feel better?"
6 Comments:
PS- How do you tell if you are being forgotten, ignored, intentionally excluded, or discriminated against?
6:03 p.m.
Damn it Carrie! I told you to feel the LOVE!
10:11 a.m.
Uh, I'm getting the impression that you are having a bad day... Well, it's time to cheer up! It's not you! (I can hear your sigh of relief already.) Remember, spring is the time of new beginnings, blooming, and of course, mating. Yes, the testosterone is surging in our male counterparts - the estrogen is making itself more apparent in ourselves (if that's possible). All of these hormones being exuded into the air are like seeds sewing disaster. Or sex. (Which in some cases may be disasterous.)
So, no Carrie - it's not your fault. Just remind people that they need to use their hormones for good and not evil. But even the nicest individual can be an alpha asshole sometimes. Don't take their shortcomings personally. You're better than that!
As for fairy-tale relationships - well - they do exist. But they wouldn't be fairy tale-like if they didn't have to overcome obstacles on the way. These things are just a way of reminding couples that they can overcome the wicked witch, the unholy curse, or the dwindling savings account. So don't give up hope. I sure haven't.
I hope you can have a better day now! Take care and smile, diggin' buddy.
Luv,
Dr. L
10:32 a.m.
Ouch--that's kind of mean. You try giving up smoking and see how chipper you are. If you like I'll stay in my apartment until Fall. And no, none of these hostilities are your fault (whether you are talking about me or not)! And, no, hurting someone does not make us (me) feel better, but feeling like you get the hurt out does feel better.
Spring, as the landscape renews itself, can cause people to take stock of their lives, where they are and where they should be, blah blah blah. With this comes frustration.
D
10:39 a.m.
Where I come from, they don't call it spring break up because of the icebergs! I think it's a bit natural for people to stretch their wings after being cooped up together during the winter that doesn't seem to be ending soon enough...
It's probably not you, just your awareness of "it." Even "happy" couples have conflict - it's human nature. I haven't really noticed it lately, but then I've been in a self-absorbed student mindframe. maybe think of yourself as the kind of friend/person that people feel comfortable around to say what's bothering them. I avoid conflict by avoiding people who are conflicted - take a walk in the park, and if they're not better by then, at least hopefully you will be. Count your blessings and buy yourself flowers! + do what cp says!
-H.
1:50 p.m.
yes, yes, yes to the love. from us to you, darlin'!
more thorough deconstruction of your post coming soon.
kisses,
k.
3:33 p.m.
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